Yesterday I got a message from WordPress, saying that it’s been a month since I started this blog:
I was surprised that it had already been that long – it certainly doesn’t feel like it, which, I guess, is a good sign. maintaining this blog doesn’t feel like work, and looking into different ways of improving it and getting it out there for mummy bloggers to read is actually pretty exciting!
I started this blog to help other mummies find useful and friendly articles about pregnancy and motherhood issues. If you read my welcome post, there’s a bit more about this; but, basically, a lot of conflicting information about questions and concerns that I had after my baby was born led me to realise that only I can really know what’s best for my baby. I have to take all of that information, filter through it, and decide which bits I need to use. Now, obviously that doesn’t apply to medical recommendations – if it’s related to health, then a doctor or specialist will know best. What I’m talking about is advice, approaches and methods, many of which are appropriate but for one reason or another, you are told to use one that perhaps doesn’t suit you or your baby.
What I didn’t expect was the feeling that I got after posting a few times. I did a couple of informative posts at first. Then, one morning after staying up late the night before after putting my baby to bed (and realising that the concept of time is completely different pre-baby and post-baby), I put together a reflective post (read it here). Really thinking about my own experience (not just my experience in changing nappies or breastfeeding or swaddling or other practical concerns that new mummies have, but my true experience; the emotions and concerns and joys of being a mother), and expressing that in writing (which has always been my best means of communication) made me realise that there is a lot more I can share. There are other mummies out there wanting to know that someone else is having a similar experience, similar concerns, that someone else’s child is going through the same thing as your baby. They want to know that someone else is nervous or uncertain or scared or confident, or any other of the myriad emotions that mothers go through each and every day. This is a space to record my thoughts for others who might find comfort or value in the camaraderie of shared experiences.
This blog has provided me with an opportunity to cast off the net solitude – that feeling of being the only one going through a particular thing, or even the sense that you were once one thing and now another. I’m a writer; writing has always formed a big part of my life, and a big part of my day job (which I’m currently on leave from) is writing. I haven’t written creatively in some time, even getting writers block with my other blog (which is, ironically, about writing, among other things). But in writing here, to share my experiences and connect with other mummies, I can be all the things that I am; not just a mother or a woman or a writer or a student or a dancer, but all of those things. I am me.